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Those Exquisite Forms of Love That Do Not Speak Your Language

Learning about love languages helped me understand myself and my family. But we must think about them wisely.

The challenge and joy of love languages is not in demanding someone else learn to speak my language or manipulating them until they learn to do so. It is in learning how to speak other languages, to receive love in new ways.

How many arguments did my hubby and I have, as he came home from work? He looked at me, looked at the dishes on the counter, and immediately set to washing them. I felt judged, for not having the dishes done. I felt hurt, that those dishes trumped me in importance. I felt angry about both those things!


One day I had enough and we finally had it out. I unloaded all those thoughts, and waited.


His response: “I do the dishes so that they are done, so we can both sit down and relax and enjoy the evening, and you won’t feel like there is work left to do.”


What I saw as an uncaring act, born out of a desire for order that trumped a desire for me, was actually and act of loving service. A little gift to me.


It all made more sense a few years later when I learned about love languages. So many things fell into place. My language: gifts. His language, you guessed it: service.


One thing we must be careful of, however, is that these languages don’t morph info demands.


Collected From Around The Web 8.29.16



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Teaching The Word

Revive our Hearts featured Jen Wilkin, speaking on teaching the Bible.  I sat in my car in the garage because I didn’t want to get out and miss the end.  Here are Part 1 and Part 2.


Summary of the OIA Method

Knowable Word has a good explanation of a Bible study that has been around for ages:

“The wonder of the OIA method is that it allows the text to speak to us, rather than reading our own meaning into the text. The beauty of the OIA method is that it can be taught at seminary and get very, very deep, or it can be taught to the youngest children, enabling them as well to know the Lord in his Word.”  Check out Summary of the OIA Method.